Why Only Alpha Males Can Share Pussy

I wrote an article a while back about men’s emotions so we could have clarity on how and why men emote.  All too often, women get pegged as the emotional ones.  I’ve also spoken about male hatred of other males.  It’s a real thing and very deep.  Actually, it’s deeper than we want to admit.  Where do we see male on male hatred come out the strongest though?  When one man fucks another man’s woman.  How about when a man even thinks about another man fucking his woman?  How about when a man fucks his ex?  That’s the apex of our internal hatred.  We can’t even think about that shit.  The image of another ninja’s dick down our woman’s throats is reason enough to start a war in this mf.  As men we all know it.  Did you see the movie Troy with Brad Pitt?  How many wars have been fought over a woman (i.e. jealousy)?  I’m sure tens of millions of human beings have been killed because MAN A got emotional about MAN Bs dick down his woman’s esophagus.  Or in her ass.  Or his tongue down her throat.  Or his dick in her pussy, tongue down her throat, and middle finger in her anus.  That triple-threat vision will have you pulling out the glockature in no time flat.  I get it.

The only thing worse than another man fucking ‘your’ woman is her having a baby by that mf.  LMFAO!!!  The baby comes out looking like your homeboy just might be enough to send you over the edge.  That’s like the double whammy.  I can laugh about it because I’ve felt the pain of those thoughts and visions myself.  I know men who are personally in that predicament and it’s been a journey for them.

Let’s Break it Down

But let’s break it down though.  Why does it bother a man so much to even think about another man fucking a woman he fucks?  Have we thought about that one?  We know at the end of the day it’s jealousy, right?  But it’s that violent jealousy opposed to that sit in the corner and fume jealousy.  It’s fear of losing her.  If not losing her physically to another man, losing her emotionally to another man.  It’s our fear of being second, third, or even forth.  If we can lock her down to be with just us, we can guarantee we’re #1 at something, right?  We don’t want to have to compete against some big dig, long stroking brother, who’s a trained and tested maintenance man.  We don’t want to compete with those brothers that Jill Scott be singing about in Missing You, So Gone, Crown Royal, The Way, and please, please not Do You Remember.  None of us want to be Ninja B in Do You Remember, right?  Where the women is with you.  She’s your woman, but she’s saying the cologne you’re wearing is stinking on you.  That you can’t throw it down like the prime cut ninja she dated before you.  Where you’re hitting the pussy and she’s dreaming of Ninja A.  DAMN!  Who wants to be that sorry mf?  I get it.  A man’s worst nightmare, for real, for real.

Like I said in my other article, The Truth About Men’s Emotions, male emotions are fragile when you hit the right buttons.  I’ve been there personally many times, so no judgment to any men out there.  I’m speaking from direct and indirect experience; plus, my coaching client experience.

What is Alpha

So here’s the thing, we generally define an Alpha male as someone who has confidence in himself from A to Z.  He’s in touch with his feelings, but doesn’t let them dictate and control his life or actions.  An alpha male has focus, purpose, discipline, and drive.  He doesn’t have to manipulate anyone for advantage because his shear power and intellect will always be enough to give him the success he desires. He has a certain amount of internal fortitude in combination with physical toughness.  If you’re a man and can’t take the internal pressure and stress life delivers to you then you’re not an alpha male.  Alpha males are not driven by emotions like anger, jealousy, insecurity, insufficiency, and lack.  Alpha men are purpose driven.  Alphas are courageous in facing the outside world and coming to grips with their own internal emotions.  They don’t feel the need to fake or lie to paint a picture that’s not true, but rather stand firm in their truth no matter how it appears to the outside world.  It doesn’t mean they don’t have discretion of what’s shared, but hiding is different from keeping things private for discretionary purposes.

Without a doubt, there is no situation or thing on the planet to test a man’s internal fortitude than a woman.  It’s ok to admit it.  I know I can.  I haven’t had a challenge as deep as what some of the women in my life have dealt me over the years.  Women provide that emotional challenge for men like nothing else can and that’s not our comfort zone.  That’s real talk.  The challenge is real, but so are the rewards, so it’s all good.

But that’s my primary message – it takes a man plugging into his highest masculine nature to connect with and deal with a woman in her feminine nature – a powerful, sexually free woman.  A sexually free woman is a challenge to the average conventional man – let’s just keep it real.  Most men aren’t trying to deal with all of that.  Yes, they want the freak in the sheets, but they can’t have her free. They don’t even want to know where or how she got those skills.  They don’t want to know all the practice and training she got to suck a cock with such perfection and elegance.  They’re hoping she was just born with natural skills.  Nah, my brother.  The male community put her through her bachelors, masters, and doctoral training.  The male community came together (no pun) and refined those skills my brother.  We taught her how to deal with nut sacks, how to deal with the tip of the penis, how close to the anus to place those finger tips, how to swallow every drop.  Now she’s your girl.  Now she’s your freak in the sheets – not before though my brother.  Not before.  Now that’s brotherhood.  We came together and gave you exactly what you wanted – wifey, mother, freak.  You’re welcome.

BROTHERHOOD

Speaking of brotherhood, how is it that men come together in a tight bond as men?  What brings us together as men and what holds us together in a bond of love and respect?  Well, anything can bring us together – common goals, religion, similar circumstances, environmental confinement, similar parentage, etc.  As men, it’s easy for us to come together, always has been, always will be.  But what has been shown to be harder is how we actually stick together as men.  What’s been harder is how do we maintain a mutual respect and love for one another over the long term that is fruitful?

As men we have a solid methodology for building brotherhood and that’s to toil AND overcome obstacles together.  It can’t just be one, but both.  Just toiling with someone, but failing won’t build a bond.  We tend to move away from anything that reminds us of pain and defeat.  It’s the combination of pain (toil) and success that brings men together in brotherhood.  Well, one of the things.  You can get a deeper understanding in my other article The Keys To Brotherhood.  I’m speaking from experience.  There are no men I’m closer to than the men I pledged my fraternity with.  When I was on campus and I saw one of my line brothers, I was instantly happy.  I would do anything for them and them for me, even to this day.  It’s just the way it is.  I’ll never forget what we went through.

RECAP:  What brings men the greatest toil (pain)?  Our interaction and relationship experience with women.  What is our greatest challenge as men when it comes to women?  Our emotionality and jealousy of them fucking another man.  Of them expressing their full sexual freedom on there terms.  No question in my mind, this is #1.

When we talk about brotherhood, what makes a bond between men the greatest and strongest is when those men (a) can love the same woman, (b) fuck the same woman, (c) be present and protect the same woman, and (d) not give into jealousy, emotionalism, or insecurity.  I know most men wouldn’t agree with this, but it doesn’t get any realer than this.  I’m not talking about running a train on a woman you don’t give a fuck about.  No, I’m talking about expressing love and protection AND sharing with your brother.

I hit on this in my article, The Mythologies of Sex and Women in the Black Community.  Egalitarian societies had love for each other because they shared intimacy amongst the community.  They had true love for each other.  They cared about each other.  Listen – you can’t manufacture love for a person.  LOVE is not an intellectual process.  LOVE is an actionable reality that challenges all your barriers as a human being.  It pushes your insecurities and limits and boundaries.  Ownership is the opposite of love.  Jealousy is the opposite of love.  Insecurity is the opposite of love.  These same things – ownership, jealousy, insecurity – are also the opposite of brotherhood.  These are the elements that tear families and nations apart.

Our ability as men to share and protect that which is most dear to us is what builds our bond as men — and what we hold most dear is our women’s affections.  There’s no disputing this fact.  It’s been proven over the centuries.  What we covet most as men is our woman’s love.  To share that is the apex of oneness amongst men.  Again, I know this goes against convention.  I know men will disagree, but I’m not here to present the obvious or go along with the status quo.  This is about pulling my people out of the matrix.  Face your fears.

One Love,

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