Female King | Female Queen – Which Are You?
Recently JujuMama Love Academy rolled out a wonderful new way to assess your relationships. Step one in that process involves assessing what we call The Original Choice! What happened in your relationship that set up the original parameters or Gridlines that you’ve followed – know it or not, like it or not – ever since! Members here at JLA enjoy opportunities to explore this in deep discussion with myself, and Rakhem Seku (Carl Stevens), within our private forums, daily. To gain access to these groups – Join JLA at the Bronze Level today!
So let’s pretend for a moment that you are in a female body, and you have, unknowingly, made The Original Choice as Dominant in your relationship… this presumes that your partner made a conscious or unconscious choice into the submissive position. The next question is, are you leading from a masculine energetics, or from the feminine? Are you running a Kingdom or a Queendom?
There are female kings and there are female queens, this has nothing to do with sexual orientation, gender, or anything binary. This has only to do with chemistry. The Original Choice gives us a glimpse into the natural, chemistry of each relationship, beyond ego, beyond intellectual gyrations, beyond premise and “roles”, beyond everything… what is the natural spirit of the relationship? Once we get honest about this, we can really thrive in relationships!
I’m going to go deep into this topic at the JLA members call Monday Evening! But here is a brief summery:
The Female King is someone who is leading her home, or relationships from a dominant position – but she is using the four masculine shades of reality to do this. She is coming from her Leader, Monk, Negotiator and Warrior energy in her leadership. Often, women who are doing this in relationships are seen as bossy, domineering, and forceful. However, in each such case, her male or female partner who assumes the submissive position has agreed to The Original Choice unconsciously, or sub latently, but refuses to accept the arrangement consciously. So he may be in rebellion to this modality. But please note, there is nothing wrong with a female bodied person leading from the four masculine shades of reality. The only challenge that occurs is when there isn’t an acceptance of this arrangement. Another challenge here is that the partner may someday want to become dominant in his or her own life ~ and may blame the female bodied King for his or her inability to do so! Right?
The Female Queen is someone who is leading her home, or relationships from the dominant position – but she is using the four feminine shades of reality to do this. She is coming from her Devotee, Conservationist, Lover and Visionary in her leadership. Often, women who are doing this in relationships are seen as intelligent, magnetic, having her stuff together, and knowing how to get a man to do exactly what she wants in the sweetest ways possible. Her man or men (or her woman or women) seem to be in service to her, they make every accommodation to see that she is happy and well served. In my studies, I’ve seen this arrangement for the female dominant person work more fluidly than the female King – but that’s simply due to current cultural codes and mores.
Are you a female? Are you the dominant personality in your relationship? If so, are you leading from the King or Queen position? I’m going to go deep into this topic at the JLA call Monday Night! This is critical to our times. We must figure out the Gridlines in our relationships and honor them fully. If we want change, we make the internal shifts to alter them, if desired. But they are never altered by commanding our partners to change. Not ever! Embracing what IS, is the key to relationships as Aquarius is on the horizon of human development! Let’s do this!
Let’s talk about The First Choice and the weight it has in assessing relationship viability and sustainability tonight! Register at the Bronze Level to attend our weekly calls and online events! For more information about the Kingdom, Queendom and Empire relationship styles, click here.
Light and Love to you,
Kenya K Stevens